My fiancé, 27, refuses to have a vasectomy even though we've agreed on no more children - should I call off the wedding?

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A bride-to-be has revealed she is on the verge of calling things off with her fiancé because he won't get the snip.

The woman took to the British parenting forum Mumsnet to explain she had already endured one gruelling pregnancy and was not prepared to do it again.

The 27-year-old explained she and her partner have agreed not to add any more  children to their brood and want to prioritise the child they already share, yet he refuses to get a vasectomy because it is 'too permanent' a decision.

The bride-to-be revealed her partner's decision has worried her so much, she no longer wants to be intimate with him out of fear she might fall pregnant - and she asked other people if she should call off the wedding. 

In response, people argued her future husband has every right to refuse a vasectomy, because it's his body, and therefore his choice. 

The anonymous bride-to-be revealed to the parenting forum, Mumsnet, that she was pondering calling her wedding off because her fiance won't get a vasectomy (stock image)

The future bride explained that the pair decided they would have no more children, citing financial and health reasons.

She expressed it was a relief to learn they are 'on the same page' because her previous pregnancy and birth were so horrendous.

'Without getting into details I had a horrible birth and pregnancy, and have been told that if I have a second I will have an increased risk of getting certain illnesses,' she said.

The fiancée claimed she was still feeling the after-effects of pregnancy to the present day.

The woman is adamant she won't have anymore children, however she is worried her husband-to-be may change his mind and opt to have a baby with another woman

She has ultimately accepted that her body 'is more like used goods' and she will never return her prior self.

The woman wrote: 'I've come to peace with never being [in] the same condition again.'

Although, both she and her partner have agreed on no more children, neither are willing to undergo a procedure that will make them infertile.

The bride-to-be argued that it is easier for her future husband to undergo a vasectomy than for her to go through a tubal litigation.

She has continued to press her husband-to-be about the procedure, stressing contraception is not always fully effective.

Parents took to the comments to defend the husband-to-be, stressing to the anonymous woman that it was 'his body, his choice'

But now, the woman has been left confused as to why he won't simply have the procedure, if he really does not want any more children, worrying that he may have had a change of heart.

She feared: 'I have this horrible gut feeling he will secretly want kids further down the line, we will get married. He will realise this and leave me for another woman.'

Questioning their five year partnership, the woman pondered whether she should call their wedding off entirely.

Mumsnet users took to the comments to defend the man in question, with some telling the bride-to-be she could not 'dictate' the choices someone else makes with their body.

One person said: 'I'm usually all for men having [a] vasectomy but 27 with one child is very young.' 

Another chimed in: 'It's a big decision, it's his decision and he's still very young to make such a permanent end to his fertility.'

Others branded her as 'completely unreasonable, adding: 'He's very young, with one child and it's his body.'

However some people were more understanding of the bride's point of view, with one saying that he's 'moved the goal posts' in their relaitonship 

Some suggested if she felt so strongly about not having more children, then she should undergo the procedure, stating: 'If it means this much to you, you will have to pursue sterilisation.' 

While a user commented: 'You can call off your wedding for any reason you like. 

'But if your aim is to somehow guilt him into life-changing surgery that he does not want, then you are acting despicably.'

Another was a little more sympathetic, saying that although it's his choice, it would also put her off getting married. 

And one commenter said they were 'surprised' at so many people branding the bride-to-be unreasonable. 

'Yes 27 is "young" but you're in a serious relationship with children and have previously discussed this and was assured your partner's views on this aligned with yours,' she said. 

'Now he is backtracking - his choice of course, but it's incredibly frustrating for you, as you don't want to put your body through that risk - that's also your body, your choice. As a loving partner he shouldn't want to put you at risk like that. 

'You're the mother of his child, he needs to put you first on this, especially considering what you have given him, and presumably years of the contraception onus being on you. 

'A vasectomy is a WAY easier and less intrusive procedure, than female sterilization is. If he can't jump on board with this, I don't think the relationship can continue, which is such a shame, but it's him that's changed the goal posts.'